Last night I had a dream…this very dear person, that has gone to Heaven, and I were having a conversation and all I remember about the dream is what this person said, that even in the dream I said “wow! that is so profound.”
This is what this person said “If you have not been taught, given or shown love, you cannot give love or even show love.” The definition of love is so broad, that this has many applications.
This morning I have been thinking about this sentence and some pieces have fallen in place. Some of our parents, friends, brothers, sisters, and so on… have not been generous in their showing of love or affection to some of us. Now I realize that is because probably they were not shown or given love. Sometimes some of us can face this syndrome, hold on to it forever, and become a prisoner on this circle of pity. Sometimes that is the excuse we always use to get away with inexcusable behavior. It is all about “me and my sad story.”
I have made peace with my own issue, because I remember very well that my grandparents were very dry in their showing of affection, so now the pieces fall into place. They were not shown or given love…so there goes the cycle.
The reason why I am writing about this subject matter is because…nothing happens by accident in the universe. Someone, somewhere, needed to make peace with this issue, and I am only a vessel.
So…it was today, March 19, 2012…a day to break that cycle and put some issues to rest.
Your Happy Contessa
“To be able to say how much you love is to love but little.” Francesco Petrarca, Italian poet, scholar and humanist. 20 July, 1304 – 19 July, 1374.
2 thoughts on “Even love has to be taught…”
I’ve been working on this issue all my life. I am trying to reinvent myself emotionally and am trying to be more demonstrative. When one has been starved emotionally, it is hard work but oh so worth the effort. Hugs to friends and family can make you feel warm and fuzzy! I love that you have been my teacher in this aspect of my life for many years. Thank you!
Raylene, I know that warm, fuzzy part of you very well. I am so glad that somehow we have helped each other to overcome so many issues that we have dared to look at them on their faces, and said, bring it on, we can and we will deal with them. Life is full of mysterious and wonderful things. Let’s continue to face whatever is brewing out there with strength, determination and a good sense of humor. We deserve to be happy. Thanks for writing.