The need to be validated…

We human beings have had this need for validation, I think, from the moment we are born.  What is it to be validated?  In my book of definition, validation is when someone approves of you,  your actions or your situation.

Yesterday, I had a great moment.  I was pondering while cleaning the front door, and the thought that I don’t need to be validated crossed my mind.  I felt so liberated!

I do things because I want to do them.  Like this blog, I have a decent audience, for which I am forever grateful, have had nice milestones accomplished, but…I do it because I want to do it.  Not because I am looking for any kind of feedback or approval.  I love writing about the way I see things, and love even more sharing what I think are my beautiful pictures with you.

I believe we live in a world of a constant need to be validated.  Cars, houses, how many toilets your house has :), and so many other things.

Growing independent from this need is not easy, because that’s the nature of our ego.  The need to show them how good we are and seeking applause or approval.  But the funny thing is that everyone is playing the same game.  Merry-go-round.  The marketing companies love this weakness we humans have because that’s the way they make their living.  Oh well, someone has to do it.

I am trying to grow more and more independent from the need to be validated, because that helps me to avoid disappointments.  The moment I feel something is not deriving any pleasure or joy for me, I let go of things.  And that’s a good thing.  Hello Martha.

Validating aside, this little rascal has been voiding my camera every time I see him/her.  Today I had a somewhat decent opportunity to get a shot.  Here’s for your enjoyment.  I guess this rascal does not need any validation.

Today’s posting is short, but immense with wisdom.  I think.  Hope it makes you ponder over the very nice and happy weekend you will have.

So it was today, Friday, April 8th, 2011…Make it one of the happiest weekends ever!!  Just because.  See you next Monday!

Your Happy Contessa

“To be without some of the things you want is an indispensable part of happiness.”  Bertrand Russell, British philosopher and one of the most important logicians of the twentieth Century.

7 thoughts on “The need to be validated…

    1. happycontessa Post author

      Hi there, Lindsay! Any sight of gators yet? Thanks for the compliment. I can always count on you to be nice…are you being nice? I never know which part of the left field you are coming from. It is always good to hear from you. Hope you and Nancy continue to enjoy the Everglades. That’s one part of Florida I need to visit more thoroughly.

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    1. happycontessa Post author

      You tell me. It is not an easy life. So many details and so little amount of brain cells to capture it all. But do not fear, I am working on something that will allow all of us to be validated. Thanks for keeping up with it all.

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